I was just chatting with a friend on FB, and commented how happy I was to be able to chat with her, because otherwise I'd be talking to myself. Then I remembered this therapy!
Maybe I'll pick it up again. I'll let you know.
Saturday, August 18, 2012
Wednesday, September 14, 2011
Well
Why are people so resistant to any kind of change? It completely amazes me. Here is a simple example. At work we have a copy machine. Using the copy machine, you can scan and send documents. To yourself or others. Anyone with an email address. The problem with this stemmed from the beginning. Not many people were properly trained in using this machine. Everyone just basically learned as they went, with help from others. One shortcut that people discovered was that you don't have to put in a sender when sending documents. It will default to the first address on the list. Guess who is the first address on the list? Yup, me. So whenever people send a document: 1. It looks like it came from me and 2. any bounce backs (errors, out of office, etc) come to ME. Being the nice person that I am, I then try to figure out who sent the document and let them know of the bounce back. I cannot do that anymore. It takes up too much of my time, and I'm being redirected by my bosses, so I need to get rid of fluff stuff that really has no bearing on my role. So today I talked with my inhouse IT person (which used to be me too, but this responsibility was reassigned to someone who really has just a bare minimum of understanding) and asked her to communicate to people the need to input their own name as the sender. It requires about 10 seconds of time on their part and a couple of selections on the copier. Of course when she communicated this, she pointed at me in her explanation. "you have to put in a sender because otherwise dragonflies gets all the errors". Since then, I've heard no less than 4 people (there are only 14 people that send these anyway) complaining about it. Really people?
Friday, September 02, 2011
14
Happy Birthday this coming Sunday to my beautiful daughter! Ok, so teenagers are really sometimes a pain in the ass, but other times she makes me so glad to had a 2nd kid! Lately we've been going for walks in our neighborhood. Maybe 3 times a week or so, but that 20-30 min are just great! We actually talk, and she shares things with me, it is awesome.
Love you Missy!
Thursday, August 04, 2011
August
Well, August is here. July is finally over. It was a big month for me. My birthday, and separation.
My dad arrived in town last week, and is staying for the whole month! Yay! This is the longest he has ever visited. I think it is a result of two things. 1. He isn't working anymore (first time in forever, and he is 81) and 2. the split between Don & me. Funny, when I picked him up from the airport, I explained how we have been working things, with Don coming over several days each week, and that he is pretty much normal now again. My dad had been hoping he wouldn't see Don at all! Nice thought, but unrealistic. I reminded him that he is the kids dad, and that he needs to be a part of their lives.
We are on a break from swimming! Well, technically Marisa has been on a break since July 18, as she didn't qualify for the big 13 & Over State Meet. However, she starts up High School Swim on August 9, with 2 weeks of 7-9am practices! Devon is off as of Sunday July 31, until Monday August 29. His goal is to do as little as possible of physical exercise. LOL. So far he has been staying up until 2am, sleeping until 10-11am, and playing on the computer. He still does chores when he needs to, but other than that, hasn't left the house!
Next Monday we have HS registration. I'm not looking forward to writing out that check! Also I guess we need to start thinking about back to school shopping. Ugh.
I'm working hard to try to really get a handle on my financial situation. I've set up a spreadsheet where I track my recurring bills, but I'd really like to analyze all of our spending. It is hard with the kids, and $20 here or $20 there. But I need to do this for myself. I know that my salary can cover our living expenses, but I'd like to know just how much I have left over for incidentals each month.
Wisconsin State Fair starts today. My ex-BIL sent me some free tickets, which was very nice of him. Marisa is using one of them today, but she is also using money to spend there, which of course way exceeds the cost of admittance. I'd like to get down there at least once, just to walk around and see the animals, etc. Maybe catch a local band.
That's all for now. What a nice boring post!
My dad arrived in town last week, and is staying for the whole month! Yay! This is the longest he has ever visited. I think it is a result of two things. 1. He isn't working anymore (first time in forever, and he is 81) and 2. the split between Don & me. Funny, when I picked him up from the airport, I explained how we have been working things, with Don coming over several days each week, and that he is pretty much normal now again. My dad had been hoping he wouldn't see Don at all! Nice thought, but unrealistic. I reminded him that he is the kids dad, and that he needs to be a part of their lives.
We are on a break from swimming! Well, technically Marisa has been on a break since July 18, as she didn't qualify for the big 13 & Over State Meet. However, she starts up High School Swim on August 9, with 2 weeks of 7-9am practices! Devon is off as of Sunday July 31, until Monday August 29. His goal is to do as little as possible of physical exercise. LOL. So far he has been staying up until 2am, sleeping until 10-11am, and playing on the computer. He still does chores when he needs to, but other than that, hasn't left the house!
Next Monday we have HS registration. I'm not looking forward to writing out that check! Also I guess we need to start thinking about back to school shopping. Ugh.
I'm working hard to try to really get a handle on my financial situation. I've set up a spreadsheet where I track my recurring bills, but I'd really like to analyze all of our spending. It is hard with the kids, and $20 here or $20 there. But I need to do this for myself. I know that my salary can cover our living expenses, but I'd like to know just how much I have left over for incidentals each month.
Wisconsin State Fair starts today. My ex-BIL sent me some free tickets, which was very nice of him. Marisa is using one of them today, but she is also using money to spend there, which of course way exceeds the cost of admittance. I'd like to get down there at least once, just to walk around and see the animals, etc. Maybe catch a local band.
That's all for now. What a nice boring post!
Tuesday, July 19, 2011
Another chapter begins
As of today, I am officially not married. Our legal separation was granted today. They plan is to hold it as such for 2 years. He gets health insurance, some money from my IRA, I get the house and we have joint custody of kids with me having final decision making power. It's agreed upon to last for 2 years (at least the health ins part) and then we'll go from there. I have 4 years to either refinance or sell the house. Hey, guess what happens in 4 years?? My youngest graduates from High School. Hopefully the market will be better then, and I can sell the house.
15 minutes to wipe away 23+ years of marriage.
I'm relieved, sad, empowered, scared and more. I don't feel much will change at face value at least at first. Not until the kids graduate. We kind of agreed he can continue to visit the kids at the house. As long as he is "normal" meaning not drunk or high, I'm ok with that. The kids feel more comfortable with that too.
He tried to talk me out of it 2 weeks ago. Suggested he move back in. That his relationship with the gf was "mostly over". WTF does that mean? no idea. Nope, I'm not his caretaker. He is worried about seeing the kids if he loses his license. I think he should worry more about if he goes to jail. But that's just me.
Anyway, I have a few lose ends to tie up, and that is that.
Funny, everyone who has worn my wedding veil has had a failed marraige. That makes 3 of us.
15 minutes to wipe away 23+ years of marriage.
I'm relieved, sad, empowered, scared and more. I don't feel much will change at face value at least at first. Not until the kids graduate. We kind of agreed he can continue to visit the kids at the house. As long as he is "normal" meaning not drunk or high, I'm ok with that. The kids feel more comfortable with that too.
He tried to talk me out of it 2 weeks ago. Suggested he move back in. That his relationship with the gf was "mostly over". WTF does that mean? no idea. Nope, I'm not his caretaker. He is worried about seeing the kids if he loses his license. I think he should worry more about if he goes to jail. But that's just me.
Anyway, I have a few lose ends to tie up, and that is that.
Funny, everyone who has worn my wedding veil has had a failed marraige. That makes 3 of us.
Monday, July 18, 2011
more later
Ok, not much time to write, but I will say this.
Don is really pissing me off.
Please say a prayer or 20 for me. Court tomorrow at 8:30.
More to follow.
PS-my sister overmedicated herself. Seems she is fine, although they did find some small amounts of "white matter" in a brain scan. They think it is smoking related, but are checking further. Thanks for your thoughts and prayers.
Don is really pissing me off.
Please say a prayer or 20 for me. Court tomorrow at 8:30.
More to follow.
PS-my sister overmedicated herself. Seems she is fine, although they did find some small amounts of "white matter" in a brain scan. They think it is smoking related, but are checking further. Thanks for your thoughts and prayers.
Thursday, June 30, 2011
update
Wow, it's been over a month since I've updated. That's good, right? No news and all that.
Really, things have leveled off. Don is acting a little more normal nowadays. He still comes round the house, but it isn't quite as creepy as it was, nor is it as stressful. We've had several talks about things, and he realizes he really screwed up. Especially with the kids. He is working to reestablish those relationships, which is good. As long as he stays 'normal'. But the kids, while they are following my lead, have definitely separated from him. They accept that he comes around, but they are hesitant to put any trust or reliability to him. That's fine too, because as we all know, he isn't trustworthy or reliable at times.
As a result of me having to be a full time parent (you know what I mean) the kids and I are doing lots of stuff together. They still have swim, and Marisa is in summer PE for her first high school credit. Devon is really doing well in swimming the past month or so. Twice his coach has approached me unsolicited and complemented Devon on how hard he is working. That is great!
Last weekend I took Marisa and a friend to a little town about 1 1/2 hours north of where we live, to see a free concert by Cody Simpson. Cute little 14 year old boy. Better than Justin Bieber (shudder). The girls had a great time at this Chickenfest, and it was enjoyable for me too.
On a not so nice note my sister is having some issues lately. First, she is having a hard time closing the door on her relationship with her boyfriend. This is the one who committed suicide 2+ years ago. The estate is finally settled, and she is the primary person for that, but she isn't dealing with it well. Then on top of that, last week she was walking the dogs and passed out in the middle of the street in her subdivision. Went for all sorts of tests to no avail. I just got a call from my dad that she just passed out again, this time at a patient's house. UGH. I really hate living 1400 miles away from them! So please keep Michelle in your thoughts and prayers.
Ok, back to work. It's month end, and I am overloaded as usual...
Really, things have leveled off. Don is acting a little more normal nowadays. He still comes round the house, but it isn't quite as creepy as it was, nor is it as stressful. We've had several talks about things, and he realizes he really screwed up. Especially with the kids. He is working to reestablish those relationships, which is good. As long as he stays 'normal'. But the kids, while they are following my lead, have definitely separated from him. They accept that he comes around, but they are hesitant to put any trust or reliability to him. That's fine too, because as we all know, he isn't trustworthy or reliable at times.
As a result of me having to be a full time parent (you know what I mean) the kids and I are doing lots of stuff together. They still have swim, and Marisa is in summer PE for her first high school credit. Devon is really doing well in swimming the past month or so. Twice his coach has approached me unsolicited and complemented Devon on how hard he is working. That is great!
Last weekend I took Marisa and a friend to a little town about 1 1/2 hours north of where we live, to see a free concert by Cody Simpson. Cute little 14 year old boy. Better than Justin Bieber (shudder). The girls had a great time at this Chickenfest, and it was enjoyable for me too.
On a not so nice note my sister is having some issues lately. First, she is having a hard time closing the door on her relationship with her boyfriend. This is the one who committed suicide 2+ years ago. The estate is finally settled, and she is the primary person for that, but she isn't dealing with it well. Then on top of that, last week she was walking the dogs and passed out in the middle of the street in her subdivision. Went for all sorts of tests to no avail. I just got a call from my dad that she just passed out again, this time at a patient's house. UGH. I really hate living 1400 miles away from them! So please keep Michelle in your thoughts and prayers.
Ok, back to work. It's month end, and I am overloaded as usual...
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