As of today, I am officially not married. Our legal separation was granted today. They plan is to hold it as such for 2 years. He gets health insurance, some money from my IRA, I get the house and we have joint custody of kids with me having final decision making power. It's agreed upon to last for 2 years (at least the health ins part) and then we'll go from there. I have 4 years to either refinance or sell the house. Hey, guess what happens in 4 years?? My youngest graduates from High School. Hopefully the market will be better then, and I can sell the house.
15 minutes to wipe away 23+ years of marriage.
I'm relieved, sad, empowered, scared and more. I don't feel much will change at face value at least at first. Not until the kids graduate. We kind of agreed he can continue to visit the kids at the house. As long as he is "normal" meaning not drunk or high, I'm ok with that. The kids feel more comfortable with that too.
He tried to talk me out of it 2 weeks ago. Suggested he move back in. That his relationship with the gf was "mostly over". WTF does that mean? no idea. Nope, I'm not his caretaker. He is worried about seeing the kids if he loses his license. I think he should worry more about if he goes to jail. But that's just me.
Anyway, I have a few lose ends to tie up, and that is that.
Funny, everyone who has worn my wedding veil has had a failed marraige. That makes 3 of us.
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When does he go to court to see about jail time?
Wow. You're keeping him on health insurance? Can you do that when you are legally separatd? You're a better woman than I.
Probably mid August. The big charges are all that is left open. All the other little ones are resolved, which is good.
That is the point of legal separation. Keeping him on health ins. But I'm not a saint. I did it so I could get what I wanted. And I did. :)
Hugs to you. I'm keeping my fingers crossed that everything works out for you. It must be exhausting living through this!
Please don't lend your veil to your daughter as her "something borrowed" :)
I hope I didn't offend. Just trying to inject a little levity into a very sad, unfortunate situation.
You have a tremendously strong spirit that has gotten you through this and will continue to do so.
{{{hugs}}}
LOL MC, I thought the same thing!
{{{hugs}}}
Maybe it's just me, but I have a hard time considering a relationship that lasted for over 20 years as a "failure". Cut yourself some slack!
True Mark, it isn't a complete failure. After all, I got my 2 beautiful children as a result of it!
Your veil has nothing to do with him being a cheating alcoholic, but I understand the cursed feeling!
This is one step towards happiness. *hugs*
Good negotiating. I think the rest of the book will be exciting.
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