Another chapter begins

As of today, I am officially not married. Our legal separation was granted today. They plan is to hold it as such for 2 years. He gets health insurance, some money from my IRA, I get the house and we have joint custody of kids with me having final decision making power. It's agreed upon to last for 2 years (at least the health ins part) and then we'll go from there. I have 4 years to either refinance or sell the house. Hey, guess what happens in 4 years?? My youngest graduates from High School. Hopefully the market will be better then, and I can sell the house.

15 minutes to wipe away 23+ years of marriage.

I'm relieved, sad, empowered, scared and more. I don't feel much will change at face value at least at first. Not until the kids graduate. We kind of agreed he can continue to visit the kids at the house. As long as he is "normal" meaning not drunk or high, I'm ok with that. The kids feel more comfortable with that too.

He tried to talk me out of it 2 weeks ago. Suggested he move back in. That his relationship with the gf was "mostly over". WTF does that mean? no idea. Nope, I'm not his caretaker. He is worried about seeing the kids if he loses his license. I think he should worry more about if he goes to jail. But that's just me.

Anyway, I have a few lose ends to tie up, and that is that.

Funny, everyone who has worn my wedding veil has had a failed marraige. That makes 3 of us.

more later

Ok, not much time to write, but I will say this.

Don is really pissing me off.

Please say a prayer or 20 for me. Court tomorrow at 8:30.

More to follow.

PS-my sister overmedicated herself. Seems she is fine, although they did find some small amounts of "white matter" in a brain scan. They think it is smoking related, but are checking further. Thanks for your thoughts and prayers.