Ok, so Don is now in detox for 3-4 days, and hopefully will stay inpatient for at least 5 days after that.
Now, the next problem? Dang, but it's a biggie.
Yesterday Devon drops the bomb that he wants to quit swimming. Yeah. WTF? He is swimming the best he ever has. Yes, he just aged up into the 13-14 group, but he enters that group in the middle of the pack, not the bottom, and not far from the top. He says it is boring. Well, yeah, we haven't had a meet since early December, and I know he loves the competition. He did quickly change his story to he wanted to quit for now, and resume with the next season, which starts after Easter. I was devastated.
This happened on the way to practice, so I said he had to tell his coach. His coach asked to talk to him after practice, so I brought him back (I had to bring Marisa for her practice anyway) and we had a meeting. I didn't say anything, I let his coach do the talking. He was great, telling Devon everything he needed to hear. I was still devastated, because I know how Devon is, when he makes up his mind. He is just like his mother.
Later I called one of his past coaches, whose son swims with Devon, and who is a friend of mine. She was completely caught by surprise too. Then she told me that she tried to do the same thing as a 13-14 year old and her dad made her finish the season, and said they would discuss it at that time. She didn't quit, and ended up being a state record holder in high school. So I told Devon that I was invoking "Mom power", and that I wouldn't accept him quitting mid season, but that we would talk about it in March.
I know his grades aren't where he wants them to be, but he also plays a lot on World of Warcraft, so I think we need to set up some more stringent limits on that too. And I'm sure all the issues with Don are causing more stress for both of our children, which is probably not helping the situation.
Thankfully, we have an easy meet this Friday, where I'm sure Devon will excel. Then hopefully he'll get back into enjoying swimming again.
I know that God only gives a person as much as they can handle, but sheesh, enough already!
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6 comments:
I'm glad that your friend who had the same experience was able to help you. You're right about the "Don issue" possibly being a part of it. Have you thought about the Alateen program for him? My thoughts and prayers are with you, girl.
*sending you hugs and prayers*
We went through this recently with DD, who wanted to quit baton twirling. It was sad because she's such a talented and beautiful twirler, but her heart just wasn't in it.
{{HUGS}}
Hang in there DF!
{{{huggles}}} I know it's not easy. My thoughts are with you.
Just wanted you to know I've been thinking about you today- I hope all is going well. {hugs}
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