Ugh, why are my posts all about Don? One day they are going to be all about something else. haha.
So he made it back finally. Flew back last week Wednesday morning. Showed up at the house right away, after I left. By himself. Saw the kids for a few minutes, and then left before they got home from school. We didn't see him again until Sunday. I guess he was visiting with his dad up north. He mentioned he had to take his dad back home.
He's been acting almost normal. Kinda scary. Very nice, considerate, asking about the kids, showing me how to do stuff that I ask about. I'm thinking either he had a little epiphany, or someone told him he better start sucking up. He did mention his gf's family is giving her a lot of grief. Won't let her see the grandkids. One of her sons wanted to go to Don's court date to confront him (or her?) but he wasn't there. He said her kids are in their 20s. One thing he mentioned was that he wouldn't be bringing her to anything where the kids are, "until they officially meet her". I hope he means it, because they have both expressed to me in no uncertain terms that they do not want to see her, ever.
He has his 2nd court date on the arrest issues. It should be interesting. I plan to go, to show my support. (ok, not really, just to hear what happens, because I probably won't get the whole truth from him anyway).
I met with my lawyer last week. He feels this is going to drag on. Could be several months. Fall/end of year, before it's done. UGH. It makes sense from a financial standpoint though. The longer I don't have to pay him anything court ordered, the better. The best case scenario would be that I get primary placement, which would mean theoretically that he has to pay me child support. But I make more than he does (well, anyone who works does, as it's all more than $0) so I would have to pay him maintenance. We would then say that he doesn't have to pay me if I don't have to pay him.
One decent thing out of this whole thing. I have lost 13.2lbs since February 15. I'm happy with that. I want to lose more, so really watching my intake.
As to having a sense of humor, it is a dark humor. I think that is my defense mechanism. Sarcastic, disbelieving laughter as opposed to crying. Then again, why waste my energy crying over something I have no control over, and realize is over anyway. In other words, I'm moving on. Just wish I could close this chapter and move on to the rest of my life.
PS. Rob Thomas is hot.
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3 comments:
Just want you to know I'm thinking of you. You are such an amazing woman and have showed so much strength through all of this.
*big hugs*
Good idea going to the court date, that way you know what really is going on.
*hugs*
The competency exam determined that he is competent to stand trial. Well yeah, I knew that. He is crazy, not insane.
Nothing much else happened at the court date. They scheduled the next pretrial date in May.
No, his GF wasn't there. Probably because I had told him I would be there. That's fine with me.
Thanks Boo, about your comment. But I don't feel I have a choice. I have to be here for my kids. They are the most important thing in my life right now, and they need me to be strong. I just wish that being strong didn't make me feel like a doormat. I'm trying really hard not to make waves, to keep things even keeled. It makes life easier, since Don still shows up at the house all the time.
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