update

Ok, so the past 2 days have been so nice. NO DH, as he has been on a little trip to Michigan. The kids and I have really enjoyed the peace, quiet, non stress. DS even posted something like that on his FB status. It's been really hard on him. He doesn't really want to talk, and about the only time I get anything meaningful from him is when I see a FB status post. He is really mad at his dad. UGH. Too bad DH just called, while I was typing this. He informed me he is back in Wisconsin, and acts like we just are one happy family, asking for updates on our day today/evening, and letting me know he has a doctor appt today as well.

The bad news update is I got a call from a credit card company questioning some charges on a card I had applied for in 2009. It was an American Eagle Card. I thought it was just a AE store card, but apparently it was a mastercard too. It is in MY name only. DH must have confiscated it when an updated card or statement or something came in the mail, and has been using it fraudulently. Racked up nearly $1600 in charges! Of course I had the card canceled, and they are sending me some paperwork to fill out. My lawyer said to wait until I get the paperwork before proceeding further. I am accumulating all sorts of crap on him that we are going to throw at him during the divorce proceedings so that I can get what I want out of it. Basically I want to not have to pay him any maintenance. I just want to keep my income and pay my bills and move on with my life. If I have to pay him maintenance and don't get child support in return (because he is unemployed and a deadbeat), I may not be able to keep the house. That is really important to the kids at this point. 4.5 years until DD is out of high school, that is my goal. Hopefully by then the housing market will have bounced back and I can sell the house for a decent price.

Oh yeah, he had another run in with the cops on Saturday. Speeding. Lazy cop let him off, even though he suspected him being under the influence of cough medicine. (that really does sound stupid, doesn't it?) I called the cops to find out what happened. They couldn't tell me a lot of details, but enough to understand what was going on. You would think the cop would have run his license and seen the recent activity. Curious though, neither of the other 2 tickets he got since the big one have shown up online.

Friday is our scheduled trip to Vegas. We scheduled it a while ago, with DH's sister/spouse, brother/spouse and dad. A couple of weeks ago he asked me if it was ok if his GF came along. Can you believe that? I suggested maybe we should all sleep in the same bed. Ok, sarcasm, but gee. He looked surprised and said no, she would be in a different hotel. At which point I said, NO, this is my vacation, I don't want her to come along. Really though, all along I had planned to cancel my ticket and use it in the future. I was just stringing him along, why not? Anyway, he promptly booked a flight for her on the same flights we are on. God forbid she would actually do something independently. He doesn't yet know I am not going, but I will tell him so that he can stay at the hotel that we already paid for. No sense wasting that, cause I can't cancel it.