changes

There are lots of changes going on at the bugmeat house. Some good, some not so good, depending on your point of view.

1. DS got his license on Valentines Day. That was my mom's birthday, and I find that very comforting. Almost like she is watching over him, as they had a special relationship even though he was only 4 when she died.

2. DH was arrested last week. He was speeding 130mph and then fled the police. He has some major legal hurdles to jump over. He has a nice lawyer though.

3. DH has informed me he has a soulmate. And she isn't me. Actually he informed me of this while we were on vacation over Christmas break. Since then he has said that they are taking a break, backing off. No, not breaking it off, just slowing down. Um, yeah. Gee, and I'm supposed to just accept that for the next 4.5 years until DD is out of High School?

4. DH & I are separated. More like I kicked his ass out of the house after I bailed him out of jail. Note I said I bailed him out. His new soulmate didn't. Even though he left with her. It's been working pretty well, considering I cut him off completely from a financial viewpoint. He has no access to our money, although I gave him some cash. He has no access to our credit cards either. He comes over around dinner time for some time with the kids, and gets bored and leaves after about an hour. I won't even go into the myriad of other issues we are dealing with right now. Safe to say I am doing my best to keep him on an even keel, just going along with his lies and delusions. And he has quite a few of those. I think that will change though, based on #5.

5. I have a lawyer, and am filing for divorce. I had a phone conversation with him, and am meeting him on Friday. Of course financially all of these things are strapping me. But it is what it is. Hopefully I'll get the bail money back at some point. I also have a nice tax refund coming. Don't worry though, I have several friends that know the whole sordid story, or most of it. They also know how to contact each other, in case anything happens to me.

I've had a couple of people say that I'm handling this whole thing pretty well. Looking back, I now realize that our marriage was over for me several years ago. Probably some time during what I call the black years. The years of his active alcoholism. But I'm thankful for those years, as they made me a stronger, more independent person. This is the first time in my life I'll be on my own. Thankfully I won't be completely, as I'll have the 2 most important people in my life with me, my children. 2 more years with DS, 4 with DD. Then they will fly the coop, and I can go somewhere warm. LOL

Well, how is that for an update?